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brotherrich

avoiding adultry
« on: October 04, 2013, 12:20:50 PM »
Men, I am a Christian straight widower. Please pray for me.
In order to keep away from temptation I no longer log on to ANY dating sites. I have found a lot of women are either not real Christians or are looking for sex. I have a lady friend and we are very platonic . I would never even think of trying any thing with her because she is a good Christian woman. My plight is , even though I remain pure in my life I still long for the good times when my wife and I would have sexual relations. I have been dwelling on that aspect of my life. Guys I doubt if I'll ever cave in, but the urges are as strong as ever. God will keep me out of temptation (as well as myself) any ideas?

The Rogue Tomato

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Re: avoiding adultry
« Reply #1 on: October 04, 2013, 12:24:13 PM »
Carry a picture of Nancy Pelosi in your wallet and pull it out each time you're tempted.   ;)

If that doesn't work, try Helen Thomas.

Seriously, it's very difficult to find a good Christian woman.  I'll keep it in prayer.

EDIT: I met my wife on blossoms.com (Cherry Blossoms).  If you find a Christian woman in a non-tourist (not westernized) city in China, there's a very good chance she's a real devoted Christian woman.   

Two reasons:  The non-westernized cities are generally populated with traditional-values women rather than "liberated" women.   And it's not easy being a Christian in China, so chances are good you've got an authentic Christian. 

Avoid Beijing and Shanghai most of all, but there are other westernized cities. 

If you do try Cherry Blossoms and look for women in China, I'd also advise you to stay away from those who have photoshopped professional photos.  It's not because you're likely to be disappointed when you meet her for real -- it's because if they went to that kind of trouble to attract someone, they're probably not the kind of woman you're looking for.  My wife posted a normal picture of herself, which was one of the reasons I contacted her. 

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The Rogue Tomato

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Re: avoiding adultry
« Reply #2 on: October 04, 2013, 12:59:47 PM »
It is better to marry than to burn

Yup.  Exactly what I was thinking.
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brotherrich

Re: avoiding adultry
« Reply #3 on: October 04, 2013, 02:11:57 PM »
It is better to marry than to burn
I would if only she would say yes, I have proposed and asked her but she so far has said no. Please don't tell me to move on , it's a matter of waiting on God's timing .

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Re: avoiding adultry
« Reply #4 on: October 04, 2013, 03:53:34 PM »
I would if only she would say yes, I have proposed and asked her but she so far has said no. Please don't tell me to move on , it's a matter of waiting on God's timing .

Well then... praying for you! I don't take these matters lightly.
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brotherrich

Re: avoiding adultry
« Reply #5 on: October 05, 2013, 12:36:54 PM »
thanks for the prayers . I am reading a good book by Dr. Jim Binney titled The Ministry of Marriage it is very helpful. God knows what he is doing . I am sure I am doing the right thing she came into my life for a reason.

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Re: avoiding adultry
« Reply #6 on: October 06, 2013, 03:43:21 PM »
Thought this sort-of on-topic pic might crack a smile...

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brotherrich

Re: avoiding adultry
« Reply #7 on: October 07, 2013, 02:45:47 PM »
very funny but, sadly true in a lot of marriages.
fornication, or adultery either it is still the same type of activity.
I have learned a lot about love, marriage and life over the past 4 years.
At this time I am waiting on God's timing he sees and knows all..
It's the self (mine) that is having the problem.
by the way I am 69 years old.

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Re: avoiding adultry
« Reply #8 on: October 13, 2013, 03:35:43 PM »
very funny but, sadly true in a lot of marriages.
fornication, or adultery either it is still the same type of activity.
I have learned a lot about love, marriage and life over the past 4 years.
At this time I am waiting on God's timing he sees and knows all..
It's the self (mine) that is having the problem.
by the way I am 69 years old.
As Brother Hyles always used to say, just because I've got snow on the roof, doesn't mean that I don't have fire in the oven!
I'll pray for you my friend.
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Re: avoiding adultry
« Reply #9 on: January 31, 2014, 09:07:29 PM »
I'll be praying for you.  I'm 62 and if my current "needs" are any indicator, I don't think I'll care about sex when I'm 69.  A warm hug, a few kisses every day, and a warm body in my bed & I'm good.