It was this screwed up mindset that convinced me that it was not God's perfect will to marry the Filipina lady I had met and fell in love with when I was in the Navy! I was convinced that God had called me to preach and was preparing for the ministry during my last tour in San Diego and was told that marrying outside of my ethnicity (or culture) would seriously limit my ministry opportunities so I was convinced that I had better put God first and wait for the one that God had for me.
And I met someone right after getting out of the Navy after relocating to the Los Angeles area to take an aerospace job. Man, I really thought God was in it and I told him that if it was his will and he gave me a good wife, I would start a Church or do whatever he wanted. I was married about six months later thinking the Lord had brought me the "Perfect Wife" but things were quite tumultuous from the start. I never went into the ministry and after 20 years, my marriage (if you could call it that) was over, I was out of Church, and was out "chasing skirts" and playing in bar bands!
I'll tell you just how good God is though! I wanted to run as far as I could away from him but he would not let me! I changed my Facebook status from "Married" to "Separated" and guess who sends me a friend request the very next day? I was suspicious and wondering what she (my old Filipina GF in case you did not get it) was up to but she came into town and we met for lunch at a Chilis on December 12, 2012 and I instantly realized what I had given up. She had just buried her husband who died of cancer so we were both single and available. Long story short, we have been married for 10 wonderful years now!
God's goodness didn't end there though. I believed God had called me to be a missionary to the Philippines and since I wouldn't go, God has brought the Philippines to me! She has a huge family both here in the states and in the Philippines and they are all faithfully attending Church now and growing in the Lord! I serve as a deacon in a Baptist Filipino congregation where I also teach the adult Sunday School class, lead a life group, teach in the Wednesday bible hour, and serve as a Chaplain at the Texas Port Ministry! I am nearing completion of an MA in Theological Studies and plan on spending my retirement years serving the Lord both at my Church and in the Philippines wherever and however God gives me opportunity and right now, I have more opportunity than I really know how to handle!
I am no longer IFB but I am far more "Independent," more "Fundamental," and more "Baptist" than ever before!
Sorry I am rambling but just felt compelled to brag on the Lord some here!