Thankyou for your reply! FYI I am actually a lady, and I am new to this forum so I do not know what a Troll is? Ackward... but I see people on here that can actually help me with-out attacking so thank you for that. (Just a thought, my husband would NEVER speak to a women with that tone, and would find it dishonoring for me to allow someone to speak to me that way.... Respect for fellow believers, iron sharpeneth iron.) This issue, even if it may seem childish to some actually does matter a whole bunch to me and to my family. We are concerned that it leads to the road to liberalism. We are actually considering moving to a church across state from us because of this and other issues. This one is the issue that shocked us and got us thinking about the direction of our church. It hurts more than you could know. My husband grew up and graduated from this church, our life has been here. This matters very very much, and it hurts. We are seeking Gods mind with great caution. Studying the history of churches in general and the trend to a fall in dress standards leads to music standards falling, then Bible version issues, then a true liberal church has been born. My concern about slacks is not the attire or garment description in the Old Testament. To save this post time I am past that debate, I believe where we differ is our definition of modesty. While some slacks like culottes are not form fitting and are modest, the great majority are not. The jeans I see worn are no different than the leggings so popular in the world, except they are made out of denim. How could that be modest? It seems that when you give people an inch and they take a mile. The same grey area this issue lies with in the Bible is principle, not direct command. We are living under Grace, Praise the Lord!!! However what is to stop someone from introducing CCM to our churches with the same arguments that tore apart dress standards. I do not know how I grew to feel this way. My husband leads by grace and has NEVER asked me to change for him. I did it for a personal conviction to be modest, to claim the dignity a lady, a daughter of Christ deserves. I respect myself enough to not need to share my form with the world. I will aspire to train the heart of modesty into my daughter. My Pastor has never preached on this issue. I have read books, and felt convicted that I was not wearing dresses and skirts truthfully because I was ashamed to claim "Christ-one" with my appearance, I did not want to look different, I was not comfortable standing out. Many messages Pastor preached did not refer to standards, but with the principle of not being ashamed to claim His name I was moved to wear scrub skirts also to work. (I had worn only skirts for 5 years at home, but wore scrub pants to work in the hospital because I did not want to stand out). My motivation was not legalism, works salvation, but modesty and testimony. I had a Phillipino man approach me about my 'attire' and he asked if I was Baptist. It opened the door to inviting him and his family to our church, he knew I was Baptist by my attire because he grew up Baptist in the Phillipines, and hasn't found a church here in America yet. That is not my good works, that is God reaching people unhindered because His servants are willing to stand out for Him. I am struggling to understand why we are dropping this standard? Is it because some loud speakers on the issue (Hyles- Anderson) lost their testimony? If so then it is fair to see that satan was truly working in those situation in more than one way, I do not want satan to claim the victory. Reacting to satan attacks is not a fair substitute for reacting to Gods principles. He called us to be separate, dress standards, music standards are a very important part of being separate to my family. Are we going to find like minded brethren anywhere???? Our we so old fashioned that we will not find a church that holds dress standards again, or if they do it is only a matter of time before they fall???? Thank you so much for your thoughts, I can see a desire to help in your reply.
