I remember being somewhat extreme back in my early church attending days after i got saved, but my husband was friends with, what i consider a SUPER extreme guy (no Christmas tree, Trick-or-treating was from the devil ect...) from church and things just got weird.
This guy did a lot of teaching because my husband wasn't that faithful to church so he took him under his spiritual wing so to speak. He often bragged about how manly he was too, yet he rarely held a job to provide for his family.
I wasn't really happy that much if ever during this time because mainly i began to believe that my husbands salvation depended upon my obedience to him. I believed my husband was lost and i believed it was up to me and my obedience to him for him to get saved.
I dont think I was unhappy because i felt it was a huge drag to have to obey the Bible.
I think my unhappiness was due to circumstance in my life.
When I am obedient to Gods word there is so much peace in my soul, it's wonderful!
But I did get to where i felt that if i were enjoying myself or laughing a lot, then i was being selfish or making provision for the flesh.
Like.. I always felt guilty when i was having fun if that fun didnt come directly through a church related activity.
I dont believe it was the teaching at my church who caused me to feel this way, and it certainly wasn't anything from Gods word.
Now I know and fully realize from experience that when i'm living in disobedience to Gods word, I rob myself of peace, joy and happiness.
I just wanted to point it out that it was my husbands friend who rarely held a job, not my husband. My hubby has been a pretty great provider!
