aleshanee said:
Tim said:
Could you explain more the aspect of "abuse" and the illustration?
I was viewing it more as bad taste (no pun intended), or that it took the focus off Christ too much ... but when you say "abuse" are you speaking of his allowing Children to be near raw egg and cat poop? Offing it as okay to taste?
it;s not so much that the thing itself was abusive.... though it was as i will explain later....... but that in doing it, and setting it up the way he did, he showed in himself the potential for being an abuser...... .... that is where the real and bigger danger is here...... what he did put those children at risk.. there is no doubt about that.... .... and at the very least every parent of every child involved in any part of that should have been informed of what their kids were going to do and asked if it was ok with them first....... but he didn;t do that.... he moved forward and took liberty with a childs welfare without having the parents permission and without the parents being fully informed ...... that is the very definition of a potential child abuser...... propriety doesn;t occur to them.... they exceed the limits of their rights with regards to others welfare without a second thought....... and do nothing but make excuses later......
but furthermore ....he didn;t even inform the children of what what he was going to do before hand..... or ask their permission to do it.... .. he just sprung it on them in front of the whole church and left it up to them to decide whether they wanted to taste it or not........... and in at least one case... one child..... your son..... did exactly that.......... that shows where the potential risk went from risk to reality and caused potential harm ..... ... if your son had become sick from that then the potential for harm would have become real harm... in the form of diseases caused by ingestion of cat feces.....
but wait ..... ..in the spirit of tv infomercials.... which your pastor seems well suited for.... .... there is more.......
by setting this whole thing up the way he did the pastor took advantage of a childs trusting and obedient nature, and..... even worse.... took advantage of their tendency to obey without question a person in authority.... especially the authority of a pastor........ and in the process he made them an embarrassing object of a silly and frivolous illustration played out in front of the whole church......... at worst a child put through that will walk away feeling as if they were ill used and unfairly taken un-advantage of by an adult in authority........ and that ... though it may not go to the insidious ends of much more damaging and prolonged abuse ....is no less still in the same vein as those that do go to those ends.... ..... the feelings of distrust and shame left with the child is the same.......
and at the very least...if that scenario doesn;t manifest itself, then other children... especially those watching... will walk away believing such frivolous off color games and risky illustrations are what church is all about..... and hence... what life is all about....... ..... ... don;t be surprised if one of the children who witnessed that demonstration goes home and tries to set up their own little taste test experiment with other friends, later on .... trying to copy what the preacher did........ can you imagine what kind of headaches the parents of those children are going to have trying to explain why ..even though the preacher did it... it;s still wrong?......
on sunday the mess might have been in a bowl of brownie batter......... but if thats the biggest mess the preacher thinks he made by doing what he did... then he is wrong....... ..... and while his staff conned other children to clean up the mess at church it won;t be that easy to clean up the rest of it...... sadly.... he probably won;t offer much help in trying to clean up that mess either......... the ones who perpetrate these kinds of things never do...... but smart people would never trust them to anyway........ it;s better to just get away from them... and stay away..........
Wow, he "put the children at risk"? Now that's ridiculous, I am a farm kid, grew up around a lot of poop, stepped in it, sat in it, had it on my hands, on my face, in my mouth. Helped a cow give birth and had it shot up the side of my neck and into my mouth. No one ever said my dad was "putting me at risk". What a 21st century, grew up in the city, crazy idea.
Feelings of being unfairly taken advantage of? Or, memories of a silly, funny time? Yeah, some psychologist would love to tell you that your problems are because someone made you look silly, but his business is predicated on the fact that he needs a repeat customer, so curing you is not in his best interest, inventing maladies so you keep coming back is.
In regards to taking advantage of a childs trusting nature, don't we all do that when we simply preach the gospel to them? Now, I don't mean in the sense of an empty confession, but they trust what you say to be true, especially if they cannot read and understand enough to challenge you? Should we then stop preaching the gospel to trusting children?
Staff conned children to clean up? One of the goals of discipling and growing Christians is to teach them how to serve in a local church. Serve. Not a position, but serve. The best qualified SS teacher, music leader etc is the one that has a heart willing to serve. They are spiritually qualified, they have "decreased", it is life long, it is basic, and teaching that example to a child is right and appropriate and proper not perverse and a con game. What a ridiculously anti scriptural notion.
What mess will he have to clean up? Really? What mess? You are accusing the man of destroying lives with an illustration with cat poop in it.
The scriptures are filled with some tough stuff to palate.
David collected the foreskins of 200 men
Joshua circumcised all the men born in the 40 years in the wilderness
The words "pisseth against the wall" are in the scriptures
Dinah's brothers Levi talked all the men in Shechem to get circumcised
The Song of Solomon has some pretty racy material including a description of womens breasts
The children of Israel were told to stop defecating beside their tent, and to go dig a hole and cover it after they had gone to the bathroom.
Yeah, the illustration was a little crude, perhaps in bad taste, but traumatizing? Get real.