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I was reading Kathy Durbin's Story on facebook as I was researching out her abuser Paul Fox. It is amazing to me the exact scenario I have been warning/hammering IFB leadership about played out in that scenario to a T - Lack of Church Discipline. It was absolutely shameful. The problem there is that Pastor Bruce Godard fell into the trap born out of fear (I believe) of what to do with a nasty sinful situation. In the early 90s, A Bus Director and School teacher in His ministry had groomed and seduced a 15 year old girl that had been his babysitter and got her to think that she was in love with him. She already being compromised from a broken home, imo made her more vulnerable. This allowed Paul to take advantage of Ms. Durbin and abuse her mentally and sexually. When Goddard got wind of this, instead of turning to his Bible and following scripture he sadly followed what all the previous generation Baptist Churches did and went to the LAWYER. Now I am not one to hate all Lawyers but when it comes to matters of faith they have done more to harm churches than they have to help because their advices is ALWAYS against God's word. The Bible gives a clear presentation of how things are to be handled and the written law gives us the civil responsibilities. CLA and their ilk have constantly gone against the Word of God in their advice multiple times. And they did in this incident. And because of that the consequences born out were devastating to many other girls, Goddard and their Church.
Paul Fox was not disciplined. He was sent packing and ended back in Hammond Indiana. He led a pretty quiet life there and there was never again an instance known from him. So while that is all well and good right. Here leadership thought that they could ship him off, His family was spared the humiliation. He continued to serve in his new church and he and his wife remained married. The church in Wildomar was spared the drama and CLA's Charlie Craze's advice was seen as heroic. According to Ms. Durbin: "My mom told him that the relationship did happen, thinking that maybe he didn’t believe that the relationship really happened. Charlie Craze explained it didn’t matter if it happened or not, that CLA didn’t represent laymen, only pastors and churches. He then proceeded to tell her that he would make me look like it was all my fault." Where is there anything biblical about that CLA? I have been told by very high ups in IFB who have gone through some of the most tortuous of these kind of incidence "That's how it was always was done" When a boy got a girl pregnant she went off to the unwed mother's home and the boy got sent away to the Military or a relative. When a pastor got in trouble in was hushed up and he was sent away for a while until it all blew over. But there is a God on the throne who is smarter than them all and He wrote the rules on church discipline for a reason and a purpose. And it became quite evident why.
Some nearly 30 years later there was a disturbance in Wildomar. This time many girls were coming forward about a youth pastor Victor Montero. The odd thing about this story is that Victor was Kathy Durbin's Bother-In-Law. For 18 years This pervert molested girls as young as 14 years old. 7 of them came forward and as the investigation ramped up. Pastor Goddard immediately went for the same method used before and Called the LAWYER, because it worked so well the last time. UNGODLY! The internet now was a thing and these molested girls all started comparing stories and this thing blew up to high heaven. No longer could CLA's Fear Filled Unbiblical advice could be followed and this thing turned into a train wreck.
All this time Kathy was cowered into believing none of what she experienced mattered and then suddenly, after one of Victor's victims contacted her, Kathy Durbin got her voice back once she realized: "Victor has used my story and the cover-up of my situation to keep multiple teen girls quiet about what he was doing to them. Victor told these girls my story and that nothing happened to Paul Fox. Pastor Goddard just moved Paul and his family away. It was the teenage girl that stayed and suffered."
THIS IS THE EXACT OPPOSITE OF WHAT SHOULD HAVE HAPPENED IF THE BIBLE HAD BEEN OBEYED!
While the Bible clearly lays out the prescription for all this It also explains why:
I Timothy 5:20 Them that sin rebuke before all, that others also may fear.
That is 7 Girls Molested CLA and a church again put in turmoil because of your unbiblical UNGODLY "Advice"! These women will have this follow them all their life and it will affect their relationships with their spouses and their children on into many generations.
When speaking of sin and Church Discipline , the Apostle Paul was clear. it must be purged.
1 Corinthians 5:6 Your glorying is not good. Know ye not that a little leaven leaveneth the whole lump?
So CLA Who is Right? You or God? They have a lot of explaining to do and so do the pastors who turn to them for their advice above the Word of God.
My only hope is that IFB Churches would now hear the end of this tragedy and would ALWAYS obey God rather than Man.
Romans 3:4 God forbid: yea, let God be true, but every man a liar; as it is written, That thou mightest be justified in thy sayings, and mightest overcome when thou art judged.
Every man a liar yes but ESPECIALLY LAWYERS!
Paul Fox was not disciplined. He was sent packing and ended back in Hammond Indiana. He led a pretty quiet life there and there was never again an instance known from him. So while that is all well and good right. Here leadership thought that they could ship him off, His family was spared the humiliation. He continued to serve in his new church and he and his wife remained married. The church in Wildomar was spared the drama and CLA's Charlie Craze's advice was seen as heroic. According to Ms. Durbin: "My mom told him that the relationship did happen, thinking that maybe he didn’t believe that the relationship really happened. Charlie Craze explained it didn’t matter if it happened or not, that CLA didn’t represent laymen, only pastors and churches. He then proceeded to tell her that he would make me look like it was all my fault." Where is there anything biblical about that CLA? I have been told by very high ups in IFB who have gone through some of the most tortuous of these kind of incidence "That's how it was always was done" When a boy got a girl pregnant she went off to the unwed mother's home and the boy got sent away to the Military or a relative. When a pastor got in trouble in was hushed up and he was sent away for a while until it all blew over. But there is a God on the throne who is smarter than them all and He wrote the rules on church discipline for a reason and a purpose. And it became quite evident why.
Some nearly 30 years later there was a disturbance in Wildomar. This time many girls were coming forward about a youth pastor Victor Montero. The odd thing about this story is that Victor was Kathy Durbin's Bother-In-Law. For 18 years This pervert molested girls as young as 14 years old. 7 of them came forward and as the investigation ramped up. Pastor Goddard immediately went for the same method used before and Called the LAWYER, because it worked so well the last time. UNGODLY! The internet now was a thing and these molested girls all started comparing stories and this thing blew up to high heaven. No longer could CLA's Fear Filled Unbiblical advice could be followed and this thing turned into a train wreck.
All this time Kathy was cowered into believing none of what she experienced mattered and then suddenly, after one of Victor's victims contacted her, Kathy Durbin got her voice back once she realized: "Victor has used my story and the cover-up of my situation to keep multiple teen girls quiet about what he was doing to them. Victor told these girls my story and that nothing happened to Paul Fox. Pastor Goddard just moved Paul and his family away. It was the teenage girl that stayed and suffered."
THIS IS THE EXACT OPPOSITE OF WHAT SHOULD HAVE HAPPENED IF THE BIBLE HAD BEEN OBEYED!
While the Bible clearly lays out the prescription for all this It also explains why:
I Timothy 5:20 Them that sin rebuke before all, that others also may fear.
Victor never saw the church take Paul Fox's sin Seriously and He never feared for his own piety.
That is 7 Girls Molested CLA and a church again put in turmoil because of your unbiblical UNGODLY "Advice"! These women will have this follow them all their life and it will affect their relationships with their spouses and their children on into many generations.
When speaking of sin and Church Discipline , the Apostle Paul was clear. it must be purged.
1 Corinthians 5:6 Your glorying is not good. Know ye not that a little leaven leaveneth the whole lump?
Sadly now Paul Fox and His wife are divorced, Their kids are devastated, Paul is finishing out his term in jail.
Victor has finished out his term in jail.
The Church in Wildomar has been stained in front of the world,
Pastor Goddard ruined his reputation.
And worst of all the Cause of Christ was tarnished.
So how did that work out for you? Was anybody saved by following CLA's advice in 1992?So CLA Who is Right? You or God? They have a lot of explaining to do and so do the pastors who turn to them for their advice above the Word of God.
My only hope is that IFB Churches would now hear the end of this tragedy and would ALWAYS obey God rather than Man.
Romans 3:4 God forbid: yea, let God be true, but every man a liar; as it is written, That thou mightest be justified in thy sayings, and mightest overcome when thou art judged.
Every man a liar yes but ESPECIALLY LAWYERS!
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