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I am in a dilemma. Let me explain.
When I was much younger I had a girlfriend. When I joined the service, she sent me a "Dear John" letter. Probably for the best at that time in my life.
However, I have always cared for her. Now let me do some confessing. I have found that those few girls I dated early in life (HS and college [not HAC]) I have always been concerned for. It's not a romantic thing, but when you share a kiss with a girl, you share something very important. This is one of the reasons (IMO, the main reason), why you should not date, but court, and only the one you want to marry. Of course I didn't know this then and had no one to tell me otherwise.
So over the years I've wondered about this girl. How she was doing, etc. Years ago I called and spoke to her mother and she told me she had married. Fine. Good. (Her parents are now dead)
But about 10 years ago I started to think of her again. You see, now I'm a Christian. She needs to be a Christian too.
But searching for her by her married name produced little results. The trail went cold. I figured she was either dead or had remarried. Well, she's not dead! A few days ago I did a search again and used some creative search methods and got a clue! One clue led to another and now I've found her! She divorced twice and is married again. I now have her info.
But now I'm torn. Do I contact her and tell her how I've searched for her and give her my testimony, or should I contact her as an anonymous person and just share the gospel with her?
I have zero desire to enter her life. But I feel I have a duty.
Any suggestions?
When I was much younger I had a girlfriend. When I joined the service, she sent me a "Dear John" letter. Probably for the best at that time in my life.
However, I have always cared for her. Now let me do some confessing. I have found that those few girls I dated early in life (HS and college [not HAC]) I have always been concerned for. It's not a romantic thing, but when you share a kiss with a girl, you share something very important. This is one of the reasons (IMO, the main reason), why you should not date, but court, and only the one you want to marry. Of course I didn't know this then and had no one to tell me otherwise.
So over the years I've wondered about this girl. How she was doing, etc. Years ago I called and spoke to her mother and she told me she had married. Fine. Good. (Her parents are now dead)
But about 10 years ago I started to think of her again. You see, now I'm a Christian. She needs to be a Christian too.
But searching for her by her married name produced little results. The trail went cold. I figured she was either dead or had remarried. Well, she's not dead! A few days ago I did a search again and used some creative search methods and got a clue! One clue led to another and now I've found her! She divorced twice and is married again. I now have her info.
But now I'm torn. Do I contact her and tell her how I've searched for her and give her my testimony, or should I contact her as an anonymous person and just share the gospel with her?
I have zero desire to enter her life. But I feel I have a duty.
Any suggestions?