I Am Torn

[Walt]

Could be construed as a little creepy: "Hi.  We dated decades ago and I never forgot that kiss.  I have stalked you through the internet.  I am a Christian and want you to be also!"

Maybe it would be fine.  I don't know your relationship with her.  Some might see it as creepy to be stalked.  Maybe find a good church in the area and ask them to make a visit?

Interesting.  How could it be "stalking" to use the internet to find an old friend?  To me, stalking is when you hang around outside their house and watch with binoculars or follow them when they leave.

It is, I believe, when you use the internet to find people.  It certainly could be so considered.

 

[Twisted]

I don't know about this; you say that you have "zero desire" to enter her life; however that is belied by the statements above "I've always cared for her", and that fact that you've been thinking of her. I'm not entirely sure that your only motive is her salvation.  It sounds like (to be honest) you are hoping to re-kindle something.

Do you know someone that you are not close to but want the best for them?  Would that not be "caring for them"?  You're trying to make the OP romantic, which it is not.

This thread has been great as so much has come out about how people think.  I plan on using some of the responses for other threads.

 

[Twisted]

It is, I believe, when you use the internet to find people.  It certainly could be so considered.

Are you aware of how many websites exist just for that very reason?

 

[Bruh]

I believe you are having an "emotional affair" with this woman. And to make matters worse, she's not even in your life presently.

 

[Walt]

You make it sound like every girl you've kissed it was special?  That's sooooo stupid!!!!

Every girl I've ever kissed was so special I married her!

But, then, I've only ever kissed one girl.

All the girls I've ever dated were special (by definition - the number of people one dates is very small compared to the circle of people one knows).  I remember them all and wish them well.  But I seldom think about them (except for the one I married). 

 

[Walt]

I don't know about this; you say that you have "zero desire" to enter her life; however that is belied by the statements above "I've always cared for her", and that fact that you've been thinking of her. I'm not entirely sure that your only motive is her salvation.  It sounds like (to be honest) you are hoping to re-kindle something.

Do you know someone that you are not close to but want the best for them?  Would that not be "caring for them"?  You're trying to make the OP romantic, which it is not.

This thread has been great as so much has come out about how people think.  I plan on using some of the responses for other threads.

Just the voice of experience; there have been others who claimed to have no romantic interest, but re-kindled an acquaintance with someone they were either close to or wanted to be, and they wound up wrecking their life.

Our heart can deceive us.  Just be very, very careful.

 

[Walt]

It is, I believe, when you use the internet to find people.  It certainly could be so considered.

Are you aware of how many websites exist just for that very reason?

Noted.  Perhaps I should say that stalking includes more than just hanging around the person. If you use the internet to find a person and begin giving them unwanted attention in the form of emails, notes on her FB page, personal messages in a forum, that can be considered "stalking".

 

[prophet]

I care about everyone I've ever cared about.
I'm committed to one of them, in marriage.
I'm committed to love all of them.

You can't "unlove" someone.

I dont think its creepy to find someone on facebook, and friend request them.
That's what its there for.

I have traveled all over the place, and I usually look in on an old friend whenever I do.

I've intrduced my family to former girlfriends of mine. 

I care about the eternal soul of every friend I've ever had, and have gone to great lengths to witness to some of them.

This thread is about this^^^-, and not Twisted's personal life.

earnestly contend

 

[Twisted]

Noted.  Perhaps I should say that stalking includes... personal messages in a forum, that can be considered "stalking".

Oh no!  I sent an unsolicited message to someone on this forum just the other day!  Now I'm a stalker!!

 

[Twisted]

I care about everyone I've ever cared about.
I'm committed to one of them, in marriage.
I'm committed to love all of them.

You can't "unlove" someone.

I dont think its creepy to find someone on facebook, and friend request them.
That's what its there for.

I have traveled all over the place, and I usually look in on an old friend whenever I do.

I've intrduced my family to former girlfriends of mine. 

I care about the eternal soul of every friend I've ever had, and have gone to great lengths to witness to some of them.

This thread is about this^^^-, and not Twisted's personal life.

earnestly contend

Wow.  I am weeping.  Someone understands.  Thank you!

 

[Twisted]

You can't "unlove" someone.

I pity those who can.

This is a tremendous truth.

 

[RAIDER]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H9K8GzAcV5g

 

[Twisted]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H9K8GzAcV5g

I didn't know Jack Schaap could sing.

 

[Bruh]

You can't "unlove" someone.

I pity those who can.

This is a tremendous truth.

What in the world?!?!?!?!?

I've only been in love with one person, my wife!

To my shame, I've kissed others before my wife. I can honestly say, I've never been in love with any of them......especially over a kiss.

I mean, like really!! Special?? I think not!!


My wife? Now that's special.

Others, pure lust, my wife now that's special.

I wasn't saved till I was 21 and lived after the flesh. After salvation, I met my wife, now that's special.


I guess I'm just different.

 

[RAIDER]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7OpnUQPeBmk

 

[Twisted]

I've only been in love with one person, my wife!

Good for you!  Amen!  Sorry you have no love for your family.  Yeah, I know that's not what you meant.  Even the Bible tells of different types of love.  For some reason you're missing the point.

I have no idea what your comments have to do with what prophet said.

Could you ever "unlove" your wife?  Can you "unlove" your family?  See, prophet is correct.  More on this later.

 

[prophet]

You can't "unlove" someone.

I pity those who can.

This is a tremendous truth.

What in the world?!?!?!?!?

I've only been in love with one person, my wife!

To my shame, I've kissed others before my wife. I can honestly say, I've never been in love with any of them......especially over a kiss.

I mean, like really!! Special?? I think not!!


My wife? Now that's special.

Others, pure lust, my wife now that's special.

I wasn't saved till I was 21 and lived after the flesh. After salvation, I met my wife, now that's special.


I guess I'm just different.

Huge difference when you are born again at an early age.

You don't fall for this Disney "marry for , love" garbage.

As John R. Rice once said, when his wife  "Why do you love me?"
He said: "Cuz God commanded me to".
Mrs Rice:"John R, that doesn't turn me on"
John R:"It wont turn me off, either"

earnestly contend

 

[Walt]

Noted.  Perhaps I should say that stalking includes... personal messages in a forum, that can be considered "stalking".

Oh no!  I sent an unsolicited message to someone on this forum just the other day!  Now I'm a stalker!!

You misquoted me... I had "unwanted"; sending 1 message may not be stalking, but sending dozens every day could well be considered stalking.

 

[Twisted]

Noted.  Perhaps I should say that stalking includes... personal messages in a forum, that can be considered "stalking".

Oh no!  I sent an unsolicited message to someone on this forum just the other day!  Now I'm a stalker!!

You misquoted me... I had "unwanted"; sending 1 message may not be stalking, but sending dozens every day could well be considered stalking.

The "rules" keep changing.  I'm so confused.

 

[Twisted]

Success.