Many of us have undoubtedly heard/read about pastors who intimidate their congregants, however, I'd like to take a swing at this issue from a different perspective. What if the pastor is intimidated by YOU?
Had an interesting conversation with the pastor's wife last night after church. Well, it was more me being totally blown away by something to said to me. She told me her husband was intimidated by me in church. After my moment of stunned silence, I asked "Why?'
I was told because I went to seminary and he didn't even attend Bible college, he was uncomfortable with me in Wednesday night Bible Study. She informed me that he would never tell me, but she is more direct than he.
I was retracing the service over in my head during the drive home. I've been attending this church in my neighborhood on Wednesdays for a little while mainly because the demands of my secular job tire me and the church is close (a 2-minute drive). The Bible Study is more of round-robin discussion. To the best of my recollection, I spoke only when asked and kept my responses extremely short.
I rather enjoy the open discussion format. But now that I know that my presence makes the pastor uncomfortable, I guess I drive across town to the church I used to attend on Wednesdays.
BTW---I'm a interim bi-vocational pastor of a small church 40 miles (one way) from my home. It is impossible to me to attend Wednesday night services there, and they don't expect me to. Also, I never (to my knowledge) crow about my advanced seminary education. But I also don't run away from it---I spent years and thousands of dollars for a good education. Why should have feel bad about the sacrifices my family and I went through to achieve the goal of a good Bible/theolgical education.
Any takers?
Had an interesting conversation with the pastor's wife last night after church. Well, it was more me being totally blown away by something to said to me. She told me her husband was intimidated by me in church. After my moment of stunned silence, I asked "Why?'
I was told because I went to seminary and he didn't even attend Bible college, he was uncomfortable with me in Wednesday night Bible Study. She informed me that he would never tell me, but she is more direct than he.
I was retracing the service over in my head during the drive home. I've been attending this church in my neighborhood on Wednesdays for a little while mainly because the demands of my secular job tire me and the church is close (a 2-minute drive). The Bible Study is more of round-robin discussion. To the best of my recollection, I spoke only when asked and kept my responses extremely short.
I rather enjoy the open discussion format. But now that I know that my presence makes the pastor uncomfortable, I guess I drive across town to the church I used to attend on Wednesdays.
BTW---I'm a interim bi-vocational pastor of a small church 40 miles (one way) from my home. It is impossible to me to attend Wednesday night services there, and they don't expect me to. Also, I never (to my knowledge) crow about my advanced seminary education. But I also don't run away from it---I spent years and thousands of dollars for a good education. Why should have feel bad about the sacrifices my family and I went through to achieve the goal of a good Bible/theolgical education.
Any takers?