Please help

[FreeToBeMe]

This whole thread needs disinfected. 

What this thread needs is a stick......




So we can all poke out our mind's eye.

 

[ThatGirl]

no.... actually.... it;s something that needs to serve as an eye opener..... about what should have been recognized long ago......  this is not the first perverted or obscene story biker has told about himself.... it;s been going on for years....... he;s a sick exhibitionist who loves knowing both his posts, and the lifestyle they tell about, make decent people want to puke.....  .. but if past history repeats itself he will disappear for a while.... then come back posting with righteous indignation.... supporting the majority opinion in some thread .. and people will forget about his previous behavior once again..... ... how many times has it happened already?.......

I agree with you as usual.  I truly feel that Biker has some deep rooted deviate behavior that needs dealt with. 

Biker, I hope you'll recognize that you might need some professional help to deal with whatever is causing you to veer off into deviate behavior and fantasy.  Because of anonymity we can't do anything to protect this girl so please do the right thing and have her removed from your "care". 

 

[4everfsu]

At first I thought maybe some body hacked Biker's account. But after reading other posts here about Biker this guy is a sick puppy, pervert. I hope the law gets a hold of him soon. I imagine law enforcement could track him by his ip address.

 

[FreeToBeMe]

At first I thought maybe some body hacked Biker's account. But after reading other posts here about Biker this guy is a sick puppy, pervert. I hope the law gets a hold of him soon. I imagine law enforcement could track him by his ip address.

You should see some of his posts from the "old" FFF.

 

[Holy Mole]

Biker, there is a difference between a past and a recurring past.  What seem to recur with you is quite disturbing. I remember something about a couch and I suggest you seek one, not your own for recumbent "sharing" but rather a therapist's for repeated "sessions".

 

[ThatGirl]

At first I thought maybe some body hacked Biker's account. But after reading other posts here about Biker this guy is a sick puppy, pervert. I hope the law gets a hold of him soon. I imagine law enforcement could track him by his ip address.

You should see some of his posts from the "old" FFF.

Yep, that ^^^.  It's not just this one thread, (although, it's terribly disturbing on it's own) it's a plethora of threads that link together to paint a profile on this guy that is pretty sick. 

 

[ALAYMAN]

At first I thought maybe some body hacked Biker's account. But after reading other posts here about Biker this guy is a sick puppy, pervert. I hope the law gets a hold of him soon. I imagine law enforcement could track him by his ip address.

You should see some of his posts from the "old" FFF.

Like the skinny-dipping together after long bike rides.

 

[FreeToBeMe]

Like the skinny-dipping together after long bike rides.

Awright....now I need that stick again....

 

[Timothy]

At first I thought maybe some body hacked Biker's account. But after reading other posts here about Biker this guy is a sick puppy, pervert. I hope the law gets a hold of him soon. I imagine law enforcement could track him by his ip address.

You should see some of his posts from the "old" FFF.

Like the skinny-dipping together after long bike rides.

Why not ... after all .... he looks "beautiful" naked.  :

 

[Excelsior]

SNORT!

 

[Biker]

Yes, Houston, there is a problem. 

A man with a teen girl in the house needs to use discernment and you did not.  A troubled girl needs a secure, safe environment, not a place where a man does not secure his bedroom door, finds a teen girl in his room, does not reprimand her for entering his domain without permission and then rewards her with a tender kiss.  What were you thinking?

This is unacceptable.  Here is the proper response:  Aack!  Grab some cover while yelling, "Out! Don't ever enter a bedroom without knocking and receiving permission!"  You react in a normal manner, she gets embarrassed and learns a lesson.  Your response encouraged her to stay and speak inappropriately to you and to compound the problem, you kissed her?  What were you thinking? 

The worker tells you how you should have responded, and you think "that would have made her feel bad that she embarrassed me." Now I know what you are thinking, and it disturbs me.

You brought the situation to us, now I am bringing my opinion to you.  Find this stable, nice girl a stable, nice home.

I appreciate your honesty and input, thank you.

You need to re-read what I wrote, and the sequence it unfolded.  I did act normal, that was the problem. Because I was

uncomfortable, tried not to show it. To the point of not responding to her compliment. Only thinking of getting dressed and

remaining neutral until I decided how to respond. Problem was ignoring her hurt her feelings. So I told her the truth, I appreciated

the compliment. You do understand this is our foster child who recently turned

18? "Tender kiss?" I guess the truth of a kiss on the cheek wasn't juicy enough

 

[Biker]

Sorry this is a bit long.
My wife wanted to foster a teenage girl, a student of hers at Juvenile Hall where she Teaches. Hearing about her for some time now, I agreed. We got her at late 17's. Today our foster daughters Social Worker approached my car window at school. Being unaware of any incident she kept referring to, the back and fourth went on a while. Finally she blurted"she walked in on you naked"  I replied " My wife forgot to tell me I was to take her to school. She had to come into my room to get me"

After more pressure from her, I elaborated. "Fine. I walked to the dresser to get underwear and there she was.We exchanged some words then we took off for school. It was hurried. No biggie". She replied "Good then you won't be kissing her on the cheek as a reward for her misbehaving again? As long as she likes what she sees? It's your ego.."
What in the Name of? I interrupted. Seemed a ridiculous conversation. I called our F.D to get in the car and we left.

The story is. Dressing this morning looked over and our Foster Daughter was standing there staring wide eyed. ""Chris aren't you suppose to be at school?" I asked. "My God, you're so beautiful naked. I mean in general" Replayed it in my head to ensure I heard it correctly. It embarrassed me. The thought crossed my mind she may have bad taste.
I continued getting dressed…when I looked up, she was gone. Entering the living room I saw her sitting on the carpet.
Kneeling to her level, I put my fingers under her chin to make her look up… then said…"thank you. I really appreciate the compliment". Being allergic as she claimed, was not why her eyes were watery.I kissed her on the cheek. "We better go kiddo" I said.

Apparently she relayed this story to a classmate. A friend in her former group home (before begin incarcerated). They share the same worker. She doesn't trust or confide in many people so this isn't going to help. Her other Worker told me a few times, I am treating her like a child. Except she was a child! 17 back then. Now at 18, she's eligible for extended foster care that just kicked in. Seemed too good to be true ...but apparently, she qualifies. We were planning to keep her living with us anyhow.

Because the Worker contacted me, I have to discuss it with her but haven't yet. Not sure what to say? I can't even see it being expedient to bring it up and embarass her. And me.I left a message for the Worker saying I am sorry that I handled it badly. It wont happen again. And if she'd drop it, I'd be greatful. Thanks for being her worker. We appreciate you.

This is so par to the course.

I think I handled it badly. Oh yeah, The Worker said I should have covered up quickly but that would have made her feel bad, that she embarrassed me. Hurt me. So to not upset her, I just acted normal. She's a very stable, nice girl. Thoughts?

My thoughts are you sir are a Pervert. A teenager in your care  saw you naked and and made a sexual  comment, and you thanked her?? are you kin to Jack Schaap?

WTH? No sexual comments made whatsoever

-AND_Jack Schapp is not prosecuted for accepting a compliment he's beautiful from a teenager. He is in jail for molestation

 

[Biker]

ya know biker...you of all people should know that as a foster parent your first, most basic, and most simple responsibility is to do no harm..... if you are unable to accomplish even that much ... how can you hope to achieve the other more complicated things?...... i agree with jrchurch... you should turn that girl over to another foster family with more discretion and stability... for her well being .... and also for your own.......

Thanks but I have no intention of breaking up a home over a compliment. But yes, my discretion could have been much better.

My concern was if I handled it correctly.

 

[Biker]

My thoughts are you sir are a Pervert. A teenager in your care  saw you naked and and made a sexual  comment, and you thanked her?? are you kin to Jack Schaap?

I couldn't agree more, OZZY.  I seem to recall this same person posting many odd and perverted topics in the past, not the least of which was a confession of having the hots for his step mother.  I wish we knew who to contact to warn them about the dangers of leaving this young impressionable girl in that home. 

I figured you'd be here. Yes when Dad got remarried, there was one time I felt that. Being Christian, I do get concerned if I feel anything toward anyone not my wife.

 

[Biker]

My thoughts are you sir are a Pervert. A teenager in your care  saw you naked and and made a sexual  comment, and you thanked her?? are you kin to Jack Schaap?

I couldn't agree more, OZZY.  I seem to recall this same person posting many odd and perverted topics in the past, not the least of which was a confession of having the hots for his step mother.  I wish we knew who to contact to warn them about the dangers of leaving this young impressionable girl in that home. 

Your only post to me (Your post #14) is a sexual innuendo. Cartoon. I don't post to you.

Now you are making another sexual innuendo linking it to an attraction I once felt for my new Stepmom yrs back

Not sure how you missed it but this thread is asking for advice upon how I could've done better. How badly it was handled. Nothing more

 

[Biker]

Seems we have alot of Woody Allens here, that mindset at least

 

[Biker]

Are you kidding? You need to get that girl out of your house, right now. And NEVER bring another child into your home again. Any normal person would have immediately left the room, BEFORE ANY CONVERSATION HAD A CHANCE TO TAKE PLACE!  Your entire dialogue with her is disgusting and completely out of line. To be clear, the level of ignorance in your "story" is astounding, which leads me to suspect that there is a deeper issue going on here.

She was standing in front of the door. If I had went to the door, she'd have saw more than she had already.

All I could do is keep getting dressed. And calm my fears there was something very wrong for her to be there, hence why I asked. After her reply, my response was to ignore her (shun her) while I kept getting dressed. I was uncomfortable. Hence why she was crying on the floor when i came out. It's all fine now. I will always respond to her no matter what, to re-assure her. Even if it is saying what she doesn't want to her.

 

[Biker]

Taking your posts as a whole, over the years. I would have to say that you have some very deep seated sexual issues. You keep dragging your sexual perversions/fantasies onto this forum and you keep telling us how hot you find yourself. I hope this whole story is something you made up because I would feel very fearful for any young woman living in your home.

Get some help. Seriously dude, get some help

What in the world? Totally untrue on both counts. You are out of line

 

[Biker]

At first I thought maybe some body hacked Biker's account. But after reading other posts here about Biker this guy is a sick puppy, pervert. I hope the law gets a hold of him soon. I imagine law enforcement could track him by his ip address.

You should see some of his posts from the "old" FFF.

Like the skinny-dipping together after long bike rides.

That has never happened. As a hardcore racer (cyclist), living in the Endurance Capitol of the World, we did remove clothing to cool off in the river DURING bike rides. To avoid heat exhaustion and to rinse the sweat off.

Just as people shower in the Military or at the Gym (which I couldn't do due to the close proximity to other naked men) we showered naturally in the HUGE American River. I know it's tantilizing but please control yourself

 

[Biker]

Actually I think I will just refrain from keeping this thread going. It seems X RATED minds are taking off so the story, as usual, won't resemble my post. But more of an erotic fantasy.

But given the majority of the forums backgrounds being sexual abuse, relating to Hyles Anderson and even remaining as Adults attending the College, it doesn't surprise me.

At least JR CHURCH cared enough about our Foster Child to give advice. I assume it wasn't for my benefit but for hers.

For those who care, we had a shared agreement drawn up, and continued some of the paperwork involved. It is going well, we all had a fun weekend together. Our son is moving back in too so we'll have a larger family under the roof.

The Worker has since heard the full story. She wishes I had responded to our Foster Daughters compliment, even when feeling uncomfortable. That was the damage done.

I have promised to respond with "Can you give me a few minutes" to any situation where I don't know how to respond. To buy time. And we have her Workers support to phone both of us, for anything. I will take her up on it

It would've been best to cover up quicker, but that wasn't really the damage. It hurts her feelings more to be ignored (shunned) if even for a few minutes...when I didn't respond back but kept getting dressed. That wasn't my intention. And...We don't break up intact families willy nilly.