whoever spares the rod LOVES their children

ItinerantPreacher said:
SaviorSelf said:
Ransom said:
"In this moment, I have severe daddy issues." - SaviorSelf

genuinely lol'd  ;)

ItinerantPreacher said:
SaviorSelf said:
I'm not, I left Christianity when I was 17 (now 21.) Based on the terms of the Bible I would not being going to heaven. I don't however harbor any angry/resentment towards Christianity or my parents.
Thank you for your honesty. I would urge you to reconsider. I don't know you, or what caused you to make a choice to reject what your parents profess to believe, but I do believe the Bible has the answers to mankinds problems, specifically the answer to obtaining peace with God.

The hindrance to many people is hypocritical Christianity. If this is the case in your life, look beyond the hypocrisy to a search by yourself for yourself.

I appreciate your concern man, honestly. My disbelief doesn't really stem from issues with the church or anything else like that. My disbelief is just that, disbelief. I do continue to seek out truth though and I don't consider my stance to be a closed case at all.
From the relationship you described with your dad, it is hard not to conclude that it weighs into the reason for your unbelief.

Everyone's a hypocrite sometimes, I don't see that as a Christian thing nor do I use that as reasoning for my disbelief at all.
For the record I love my dad. He was abused and beaten senselessly as a kid so he didn't really know how to be a father or command respect except by forcing it (whipping.) It wasn't until he became serious about Christianity about 6-7 years ago that he stopped doing that.
 
"Return, ye backsliding children, and I will heal your backsliders. Behold, we come unto thee; for thou art the LORD our God. Truly in vain is salvation bored for from the hills, and from the multitude of mountains: truly in the LORD our God is the salvation of Israel."—Jeremiah 3:22, 23.

He says, "Return, ye backsliding children." I notice that he does not say, "Return, ye penitent children." He pictures you in your worst colors, yet he says, "Return, ye backsliding children." I notice also that he does not say, "Heal your wounds first, and then come back to me;" but he says, "Return, ye backsliding children," with all your backslidings unhealed,—"and I will heal your backslidings." Many sinners seem to suppose that they must make themselves better, and then come to Christ,—a most unworthy supposition, and an utterly unfounded one. Come just as you are, with no goodness, or virtue, or hope of any; come to Christ for it all. "But all who would be saved must believe in Jesus, and repent of their sins," says one. Exactly so, but Christ does not want you to begin the work of salvation, and then to let him finish it. He never came to be a make-weight to add the last half-ounce to all that you had gathered. Come to him with nothing, and he will fill the scale. Come empty, ragged, filthy, just as you are, and believe in God that justifieth the ungodly. Cast yourself on him who came to call, not the righteous, but sinners to repentance. Bow in humility and patience before him who flashes the lightnings of Sinai in the face of every self-righteous sinner, but who kindles the milder, genial rays of Calvary to guide every truly humble and repentant sinner into the port of peace and everlasting love.

Thus have I put before you the call from God: "Return, ye backsliding children, and I will heal your backslidings."

Are you willing ... to give up self-rule? "We are our own," says one; "we may do as we like. Our tongues are our own, we may say what we like. We are free thinkers and free livers." Let me tell you that, if you are saved by Christ, you shall find the only true freedom you can ever enjoy; but there must first be a complete surrender of yourself to your God.

There is but one living and true God. Men have made almost as many gods as there are sands on the sea-shore. There is, however, but one God, whose name is Jehovah, the Creator of all things, in whom we live, and move, and have our being. Will you have this God to be your God? Will you say, "This God is our God for ever and ever: he will be our guide even unto death"? Will you take him to be yours, not regarding him merely as another man's God, but henceforth as your God, whom you love, whom you embrace, not comprehending him by thought, but apprehending him by love?

http://www.spurgeon.org/sermons/2452.htm
 
SaviorSelf said:
Everyone's a hypocrite sometimes, I don't see that as a Christian thing nor do I use that as reasoning for my disbelief at all.
For the record I love my dad. He was abused and beaten senselessly as a kid so he didn't really know how to be a father or command respect except by forcing it (whipping.) It wasn't until he became serious about Christianity about 6-7 years ago that he stopped doing that.
Thanks for the insight and explaining the situation with your dad. And you are right, everyone's a hypocrite sometimes. I define hypocrisy as "acting differently than what you believe" (Pretty boiled down simplified definition). Sin causes me to act differently that I believe from time to time.

Ok, so do you believe there is a god?
 
ItinerantPreacher said:
SaviorSelf said:
Everyone's a hypocrite sometimes, I don't see that as a Christian thing nor do I use that as reasoning for my disbelief at all.
For the record I love my dad. He was abused and beaten senselessly as a kid so he didn't really know how to be a father or command respect except by forcing it (whipping.) It wasn't until he became serious about Christianity about 6-7 years ago that he stopped doing that.
Thanks for the insight and explaining the situation with your dad. And you are right, everyone's a hypocrite sometimes. I define hypocrisy as "acting differently than what you believe" (Pretty boiled down simplified definition). Sin causes me to act differently that I believe from time to time.

Ok, so do you believe there is a god?

No. I treat the question of whether or not there is a God the same way as questions like "is time travel possible?" I don't know, I'll probably never know, I don't even think I'm capable of knowing, it's not effecting me as far as I can tell, so why bother with it..?
 
Ransom said:
"In this moment, I have severe daddy issues." - SaviorSelf
Earthly and Heavenly Daddy issues.

Anishinaabe

 
SaviorSelf said:
Hitting kids leads to highly inhibited behavior and crippling anxiety along with a host of other mental disorders. Kids don't know the difference between getting hit for acting out/sinning and getting hit for being themselves. I can confirm, I've lived with "dog scared of getting beat" syndrome for years. I also have no connection with my dad at all. Haven't had a conversation with him in months even though we live in the same house and he hasn't touched me since I was a kid. The only thing going through my subconscious when he's around is "say/do the wrong thing around him and you'll regret it"


Parents who spank their kids, love them. And parents who do not spank and discipline their children, hate them:

Proverbs 13:24 KJV
He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes.



Proverbs 22:15 KJV
Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him.

Proverbs 23:13-14 KJV
Withhold not correction from the child: for if thou beatest him with the rod, he shall not die. [14] Thou shalt beat him with the rod, and shalt deliver his soul from hell.


Proverbs 29:15 KJV
The rod and reproof give wisdom: but a child left to himself bringeth his mother to shame.


SaviorSelf said:
final analysis: proverbs 13:24 NOT from God.


Wrong.

Proverbs 13:24 Is From God.


2 Timothy 3:16-17 KJV
All scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness: [17] That the man of God may be perfect, throughly furnished unto all good works.


Proverbs 30:5-6 KJV
Every word of God is pure: he is a shield unto them that put their trust in him. [6] Add thou not unto his words, lest he reprove thee, and thou be found a liar.
The Holy Ghost moved Solomon to write Proverbs 13:24.
 
SaviorSelf said:
Hitting kids leads to highly inhibited behavior and crippling anxiety along with a host of other mental disorders. Kids don't know the difference between getting hit for acting out/sinning and getting hit for being themselves. I can confirm, I've lived with "dog scared of getting beat" syndrome for years. I also have no connection with my dad at all. Haven't had a conversation with him in months even though we live in the same house and he hasn't touched me since I was a kid. The only thing going through my subconscious when he's around is "say/do the wrong thing around him and you'll regret it"

final analysis: proverbs 13:24 NOT from God.

Here's a few thoughts:  If you are an adult, move out, get a job, get your own place, and take responsibility for yourself instead of bad mouthing the person taking care of your ungrateful sorry self.
 
BandGuy said:
SaviorSelf said:
Hitting kids leads to highly inhibited behavior and crippling anxiety along with a host of other mental disorders. Kids don't know the difference between getting hit for acting out/sinning and getting hit for being themselves. I can confirm, I've lived with "dog scared of getting beat" syndrome for years. I also have no connection with my dad at all. Haven't had a conversation with him in months even though we live in the same house and he hasn't touched me since I was a kid. The only thing going through my subconscious when he's around is "say/do the wrong thing around him and you'll regret it"

final analysis: proverbs 13:24 NOT from God.

Here's a few thoughts:  If you are an adult, move out, get a job, get your own place, and take responsibility for yourself instead of bad mouthing the person taking care of your ungrateful sorry self.

I have a job and will be getting my own place in a month or so if everything goes according to plan. I may not have much a relationship with my dad, but I love the guy and never badmouthed him, not sure what you're talking about. Bad day?
 
Biblebeliever said:
2 Timothy 3:16-17 KJV
All scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness: [17] That the man of God may be perfect, throughly furnished unto all good works.


Proverbs 30:5-6 KJV
Every word of God is pure: he is a shield unto them that put their trust in him. [6] Add thou not unto his words, lest he reprove thee, and thou be found a liar.
The Holy Ghost moved Solomon to write Proverbs 13:24.

1 Corinthians 7:25
"Now concerning the unmarried, I have no command of the Lord, but I give my opinion as one who by the Lord's mercy is trustworthy."

God's words may be pure, but the bible itself says in black and white that it does not only contain God's words. And Paul has no problem saying that, so why do you..?
 
ItinerantPreacher said:
Ok, so do you believe there is a god?

SaviorSelf said:

So why don't you just be honest with us? Proverbs 13:24 coming from God isn't really your issue, is it? You obviously don't believe that the rest of the Bible came from God, either.

You don't believe in God, but you know God is against corporal punishment. Does that even sound halfway rational?
 
SaviorSelf said:
Hitting kids leads to highly inhibited behavior and crippling anxiety along with a host of other mental disorders. Kids don't know the difference between getting hit for acting out/sinning and getting hit for being themselves. I can confirm, I've lived with "dog scared of getting beat" syndrome for years. I also have no connection with my dad at all. Haven't had a conversation with him in months even though we live in the same house and he hasn't touched me since I was a kid. The only thing going through my subconscious when he's around is "say/do the wrong thing around him and you'll regret it"

final analysis: proverbs 13:24 NOT from God.

Welcome to the forum.  Always nice to have another idiot who knows more than God.....
 
Frag said:
SaviorSelf said:
Hitting kids leads to highly inhibited behavior and crippling anxiety along with a host of other mental disorders. Kids don't know the difference between getting hit for acting out/sinning and getting hit for being themselves. I can confirm, I've lived with "dog scared of getting beat" syndrome for years. I also have no connection with my dad at all. Haven't had a conversation with him in months even though we live in the same house and he hasn't touched me since I was a kid. The only thing going through my subconscious when he's around is "say/do the wrong thing around him and you'll regret it"

final analysis: proverbs 13:24 NOT from God.

Welcome to the forum.  Always nice to have another idiot who knows more than God.....

Is that really necessary?
 
Tim said:
Is that really necessary?

We have to give Frag a pass. He's the only evidence of any kind that psycho-fundyism is genetic, and if we cut him loose, the scientists won't give us our grant money.
 
Tim said:
Frag said:
SaviorSelf said:
Hitting kids leads to highly inhibited behavior and crippling anxiety along with a host of other mental disorders. Kids don't know the difference between getting hit for acting out/sinning and getting hit for being themselves. I can confirm, I've lived with "dog scared of getting beat" syndrome for years. I also have no connection with my dad at all. Haven't had a conversation with him in months even though we live in the same house and he hasn't touched me since I was a kid. The only thing going through my subconscious when he's around is "say/do the wrong thing around him and you'll regret it"

final analysis: proverbs 13:24 NOT from God.

Welcome to the forum.  Always nice to have another idiot who knows more than God.....

Is that really necessary?


It's Frag...he has his way...but he is right here...Let's just use the "biblical" word...nice to have another fool who says there is no God!
 
The evidence you need is found in the difference in crime rate/violence rate between the days when public whipping was a punishment metered out by judges,  and the days when incarceration became the standard.

Anishinaabe

 
T-Bone said:
Tim said:
Frag said:
SaviorSelf said:
Hitting kids leads to highly inhibited behavior and crippling anxiety along with a host of other mental disorders. Kids don't know the difference between getting hit for acting out/sinning and getting hit for being themselves. I can confirm, I've lived with "dog scared of getting beat" syndrome for years. I also have no connection with my dad at all. Haven't had a conversation with him in months even though we live in the same house and he hasn't touched me since I was a kid. The only thing going through my subconscious when he's around is "say/do the wrong thing around him and you'll regret it"

final analysis: proverbs 13:24 NOT from God.

Welcome to the forum.  Always nice to have another idiot who knows more than God.....

Is that really necessary?


It's Frag...he has his way...but he is right here...Let's just use the "biblical" word...nice to have another fool who says there is no God!

Indeed the Bibles does say The fool says in his heart, "There is no God."

I just assume even the man who says their is no God still can repent. I would hate a harsh, critical, almost nasty tone to get in the way of this.

I would practice more grace with my words towards such a man.
 
prophet said:
The evidence you need is found in the difference in crime rate/violence rate between the days when public whipping was a punishment metered out by judges,  and the days when incarceration became the standard.

Anishinaabe

Metered?
Was it administered by "Lovely Rita?"
 
T-Bone said:
Tim said:
Frag said:
SaviorSelf said:
Hitting kids leads to highly inhibited behavior and crippling anxiety along with a host of other mental disorders. Kids don't know the difference between getting hit for acting out/sinning and getting hit for being themselves. I can confirm, I've lived with "dog scared of getting beat" syndrome for years. I also have no connection with my dad at all. Haven't had a conversation with him in months even though we live in the same house and he hasn't touched me since I was a kid. The only thing going through my subconscious when he's around is "say/do the wrong thing around him and you'll regret it"

final analysis: proverbs 13:24 NOT from God.

Welcome to the forum.  Always nice to have another idiot who knows more than God.....

Is that really necessary?


It's Frag...he has his way...but he is right here...Let's just use the "biblical" word...nice to have another fool who says there is no God!


I stand corrected.  Although, down deep, I still like the word idiot....
 
SaviorSelf said:
ItinerantPreacher said:
SaviorSelf said:
Everyone's a hypocrite sometimes, I don't see that as a Christian thing nor do I use that as reasoning for my disbelief at all.
For the record I love my dad. He was abused and beaten senselessly as a kid so he didn't really know how to be a father or command respect except by forcing it (whipping.) It wasn't until he became serious about Christianity about 6-7 years ago that he stopped doing that.
Thanks for the insight and explaining the situation with your dad. And you are right, everyone's a hypocrite sometimes. I define hypocrisy as "acting differently than what you believe" (Pretty boiled down simplified definition). Sin causes me to act differently that I believe from time to time.

Ok, so do you believe there is a god?

No. I treat the question of whether or not there is a God the same way as questions like "is time travel possible?" I don't know, I'll probably never know, I don't even think I'm capable of knowing, it's not effecting me as far as I can tell, so why bother with it..?
SaviorSelf, I got busy this weekend, so it took me a bit to respond.

In response to the question of whether or not there is a God, you responded the way I believed before I became I got saved. The big difference between you and me is that I was never exposed to any Bible teaching before I was challenged to read it for myself. I assume from your previous posts that you have. I called myself an atheist until someone pointed out to me that I was actually an agnostic.

It did affect me, but I didn't realize it was affecting me until I was standing on the other side so to speak. My life had become a mess, I wasn't happy about it, but I couldn't seem to fix it. For me, I had come to a financially low spot in my life, even though I worked hard and had/have a good work ethic. My interpersonal relationships were all strained, especially the one with my girlfriend (now wife). My relationship with my parents was strained, my relationship with my friends was superficial and shallow. Truthfully, although I had plenty of human companionship, I was pretty lonely.

To me, religion was a crutch for people that needed crutches. To me, the few Christians I saw and knew, their relationship with God seemed superficial. They talked a bit about God, but mostly they talked about the things they didn't do that I did, but never why. Drinking, or dancing or things like that. Made no sense to me. I am a "why" kinda guy.

The challenge I took was to look for myself. I would tell you things like, "the Bible is a good book for those that need it", but I had never looked myself. So I did. Some 2 months or so later, it changed my life.

You mentioned that it isn't affecting you life as far as you can tell. Here are some things you might consider in regards to cause and effect.'
1) You cant say there isnt a God, which means to you there certainly could be one. I think all of His creation speaks of Him. The inability of scientists to explain the universe speaks of Him, the moral codes built into mankind and society speak of Him, and those with changed lives speak of Him.

2) You cant discount the Bible as untrue. Saying "I am not sure if it is true" means it might be. That's a serious issue. You know things that I did not, for example that the Bible speaks plainly about heaven, hell, sin and separation from God. While some argue about it's interpretation in areas, it is an incredible book. Even those who claim late date writings of some of the books have to concede that it was written over a long period of time. It is historically accurate, and more important, it is prophetically accurate. The chances of the accuracy of the amount of prophecy being accurate are infinitesimally small.

Here then is the problem for you. If God is real and the Bible is true, you are in trouble. Not legal trouble, not moral trouble, but spiritual trouble. You owe it to yourself to do a thorough investigation of the issues with an open mind. That's my challenge or encouragement for you, is that you look for yourself with an open mind.


On another note, there were a bunch of responses that were decidedly un-Christian in their wording and sarcasm. This is an open forum, so in reality there is nothing I can do about them, but I do want to go on record as saying that as a Christian, I am not on board with them at all. I found those responses unnecessarily derogatory, insulting and unnecessary.

Frag, Ransom, BandGuy and anyone else who answered in kind.
 
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