Dave and Paula's Wedding

[Jo]

I was just watching a wedding on tv. Everyone stood for the bride, which is the typical tradition.

The only wedding I ever attended where that was not done was Dave and Paula's wedding. I sat in the balcony with other college students. Some of us began to stand, and Bro. Hyles stopped us and said something like, "We don't stand for the bride here." I'm sure he explained his reasoning back then, but I don't remember it. Frankly, I'm sure it didn't make sense to me.

Has anyone else experienced that at another wedding? Just curious.

Also, I did a search on the forum to see if I was repeating myself and found this below:

"You are correct. Bro. Hyles did indeed know about DH and his immoral actions.
I personally witnessed deacons and other members tell him and ask him what he was going to do about it. This was years before he was sent to Miller Road.
One night at deacons meeting a local police chief who was also a deacon told about finding DH naked in the back of DH car with an underage girl in his town. Well it was right after this that DH became the new Miller Road pastor.

Yes he knew.
Yes he lied about repeatedly."

Think how many more shattered lives there were after this incident.

 

[Sherryh]

I was just watching a wedding on tv. Everyone stood for the bride, which is the typical tradition.

The only wedding I ever attended where that was not done was Dave and Paula's wedding. I sat in the balcony with other college students. Some of us began to stand, and Bro. Hyles stopped us and said something like, "We don't stand for the bride here." I'm sure he explained his reasoning back then, but I don't remember it. Frankly, I'm sure it didn't make sense to me.

Has anyone else experienced that at another wedding? Just curious.

Also, I did a search on the forum to see if I was repeating myself and found this below:

"You are correct. Bro. Hyles did indeed know about DH and his immoral actions.
I personally witnessed deacons and other members tell him and ask him what he was going to do about it. This was years before he was sent to Miller Road.
One night at deacons meeting a local police chief who was also a deacon told about finding DH naked in the back of DH car with an underage girl in his town. Well it was right after this that DH became the new Miller Road pastor.

Yes he knew.
Yes he lied about repeatedly."

Think how many more shattered lives there were after this incident.

Jo we've talked alot about this .............why he isn't in jail is beyond my thinking

 

[Jo]

Jo we've talked alot about this .............why he isn't in jail is beyond my thinking

Sherry, how many years has it been since Brent Stevens died and no charges brought against Dave and Brenda? Very sad.

My original question was about the wedding.

Have you ever been to a wedding where the attendees did not stand for the bride?

 

[Sherryh]

Jo, I searched it Jeri Massi did great research on this no date was given . But I would say back in 1978-1980. Preacher Boys did a great podcast on this . I read somewhere he did the fifth and did not speak about it in court.
I've always stood for the bride.

My thoughts on dh is justice is coming not always when we want it.

 

[Least of These]

I was at (and in) several FBC weddings back in the day and don't remember anyone ever standing as the bride entered. Seems like it would've made it very difficult to see, in that size auditorium.

 

[Jo]

I've been pondering why I even cared whether we sat or stood as the bride entered, which is the customary tradition in most churches.

Traditionally, it has been done to show respect and appreciation, but there is the rub.

I don't think Jack Hyles had much respect, if any, for women. That's a bold statement, but after years of reading about the cover-ups, the blatant disregard for the victims of sexual abuse, not only at FBC Hammond but also at numerous other IFB churches around the United States, that is my conclusion. He was a powerful leader and speaker. If only he had cared for the victims as much as he did the predators.

My father did not attend church, but he taught me important lessons as a teenager. As we walked down the street, he often said, "The lady walks on this side of the street. The man walks on this side. It's a way for the man to protect you." Later, he would say, "Be sure to let the man open the door for you as you enter a building." These were very small reminders and sometimes annoying to me as a teenager, but now in my later years, I miss my father a great deal.

A healthy relationship between a father and daughter can keep many predators away.

I will continue to stand as brides enter at weddings. To me, it symbolizes something reverent is about to take place, and the union of two people who share faith, love, and family is a holy event.