Sorry this is a bit long.
My wife wanted to foster a teenage girl, a student of hers at Juvenile Hall where she Teaches. Hearing about her for some time now, I agreed. We got her at late 17's. Today our foster daughters Social Worker approached my car window at school. Being unaware of any incident she kept referring to, the back and fourth went on a while. Finally she blurted"she walked in on you naked" I replied " My wife forgot to tell me I was to take her to school. She had to come into my room to get me"
After more pressure from her, I elaborated. "Fine. I walked to the dresser to get underwear and there she was.We exchanged some words then we took off for school. It was hurried. No biggie". She replied "Good then you won't be kissing her on the cheek as a reward for her misbehaving again? As long as she likes what she sees? It's your ego.."
What in the Name of? I interrupted. Seemed a ridiculous conversation. I called our F.D to get in the car and we left.
The story is. Dressing this morning looked over and our Foster Daughter was standing there staring wide eyed. ""Chris aren't you suppose to be at school?" I asked. "My God, you're so beautiful naked. I mean in general" Replayed it in my head to ensure I heard it correctly. It embarrassed me. The thought crossed my mind she may have bad taste.
I continued getting dressed…when I looked up, she was gone. Entering the living room I saw her sitting on the carpet.
Kneeling to her level, I put my fingers under her chin to make her look up… then said…"thank you. I really appreciate the compliment". Being allergic as she claimed, was not why her eyes were watery.I kissed her on the cheek. "We better go kiddo" I said.
Apparently she relayed this story to a classmate. A friend in her former group home (before begin incarcerated). They share the same worker. She doesn't trust or confide in many people so this isn't going to help. Her other Worker told me a few times, I am treating her like a child. Except she was a child! 17 back then. Now at 18, she's eligible for extended foster care that just kicked in. Seemed too good to be true ...but apparently, she qualifies. We were planning to keep her living with us anyhow.
Because the Worker contacted me, I have to discuss it with her but haven't yet. Not sure what to say? I can't even see it being expedient to bring it up and embarass her. And me.I left a message for the Worker saying I am sorry that I handled it badly. It wont happen again. And if she'd drop it, I'd be greatful. Thanks for being her worker. We appreciate you.
This is so par to the course.
I think I handled it badly. Oh yeah, The Worker said I should have covered up quickly but that would have made her feel bad, that she embarrassed me. Hurt me. So to not upset her, I just acted normal. She's a very stable, nice girl. Thoughts?
My wife wanted to foster a teenage girl, a student of hers at Juvenile Hall where she Teaches. Hearing about her for some time now, I agreed. We got her at late 17's. Today our foster daughters Social Worker approached my car window at school. Being unaware of any incident she kept referring to, the back and fourth went on a while. Finally she blurted"she walked in on you naked" I replied " My wife forgot to tell me I was to take her to school. She had to come into my room to get me"
After more pressure from her, I elaborated. "Fine. I walked to the dresser to get underwear and there she was.We exchanged some words then we took off for school. It was hurried. No biggie". She replied "Good then you won't be kissing her on the cheek as a reward for her misbehaving again? As long as she likes what she sees? It's your ego.."
What in the Name of? I interrupted. Seemed a ridiculous conversation. I called our F.D to get in the car and we left.
The story is. Dressing this morning looked over and our Foster Daughter was standing there staring wide eyed. ""Chris aren't you suppose to be at school?" I asked. "My God, you're so beautiful naked. I mean in general" Replayed it in my head to ensure I heard it correctly. It embarrassed me. The thought crossed my mind she may have bad taste.
I continued getting dressed…when I looked up, she was gone. Entering the living room I saw her sitting on the carpet.
Kneeling to her level, I put my fingers under her chin to make her look up… then said…"thank you. I really appreciate the compliment". Being allergic as she claimed, was not why her eyes were watery.I kissed her on the cheek. "We better go kiddo" I said.
Apparently she relayed this story to a classmate. A friend in her former group home (before begin incarcerated). They share the same worker. She doesn't trust or confide in many people so this isn't going to help. Her other Worker told me a few times, I am treating her like a child. Except she was a child! 17 back then. Now at 18, she's eligible for extended foster care that just kicked in. Seemed too good to be true ...but apparently, she qualifies. We were planning to keep her living with us anyhow.
Because the Worker contacted me, I have to discuss it with her but haven't yet. Not sure what to say? I can't even see it being expedient to bring it up and embarass her. And me.I left a message for the Worker saying I am sorry that I handled it badly. It wont happen again. And if she'd drop it, I'd be greatful. Thanks for being her worker. We appreciate you.
This is so par to the course.
I think I handled it badly. Oh yeah, The Worker said I should have covered up quickly but that would have made her feel bad, that she embarrassed me. Hurt me. So to not upset her, I just acted normal. She's a very stable, nice girl. Thoughts?
