Tarheel, when I was a kid (and you're older than me, so that was a long time ago ya know

) I can remember the whole piercings thing and crazy punk hair stuff. This wasn't too far removed from when a coach would tell a player to cut his hair if he wanted to play for him. My oldest brother (near your age, old ya know

) would see those folk and say to me (9 years younger than him) "see those weirdos? They just want attention". You could call their hairdos and chains running from their nose to their ears "methods" if you want, metaphorically speaking, but it was the philosophy that was behind the methods that my brother was pointing to (rebellion, intentional subculture, "look at me").
Secondly, the quote you excerpted about "standards" for instance, was removed from its context. Everybody has standards of some kind, even you. Granted, if they are saying "standards" make you more holy, or that "standards" are dresses and buzz-cuts, and there is a disproportionate emphasis on those externals juxtaposed to inner holiness then you do have a point. But the emphasis I've seen continually from Tom is on the philosophy behind the methods, not as much the methods themselves. Several writers have stressed this. The notion, as I alluded to earlier in this thread (Macarthur, Piper, et al), that many conservative folk are leary of such philosophies aren't exclusive to old-school Hyles style IFBers, not by a long shot. This is just ONE example (I could post many more but this is from a nonIFB, even a CALVINIST source

----9MARKS) of such a concern...
2. A belief in total depravity ought to upend the tenets of attractionalism.
Again, it would be helpful to define our terms, especially since I?ve somewhat tipped my hand by attaching the spooky suffix ?-ism? to the relatively nonthreatening adjective ?attractional.? What are the ?tenets? of this so-called ideology?
A few come to mind:
?Churches committed to attractionalism tend to not push people away. The goal is to keep the fence around the church low, to keep the door to the church open and unlocked, so that all people can come in to enjoy the fellowship of the church without the requirements of membership.
?Churches committed to attractionalism seek to curry favor among outsiders by highlighting how similar their members are to the world, whereas the Bible ties the church?s attractiveness to its distinctness from the world (Mt. 5:16, 1 Pet. 2:12). This commitment to similarity is why so much modern worship music resembles a run-of-the-mill arena show. It?s why so many churches do sermon series on movies or parenting or marriage or money management?such interests are universal. It?s why a cottage industry of programs often flourish in attractional churches, turning them into a kind a religious service provider, built to meet certain needs of prospective members in the surrounding community. Such programs?food pantries, recovery groups for addicts, small groups for divorcees, ESL classes?are certainly not ?bad? in a vacuum, but when tethered to an attractional philosophy of ministry that sloppifies the line between the church and the world, they obscure the primary purpose of the church and in the process tend to do more spiritual harm than material good.
?Churches committed to attractionalism feature preaching that tends to focus on the benefits of the gospel?happiness, improved marriages and parenting, a clean conscience, peace of mind, etc.?at the expense of clear teaching on the gospel itself. If you go to a church for a month, and you never once hear the pastor talk about sin, the wrath of God, and Christ?s substitutionary death, then you?re likely sitting in a church swayed by the commitments of attractionalism. If you hear the pastor call people to ?trust in Jesus? but never to ?repent of sin,? then you?re likely sitting in a church swayed by the tenets of attractionalism.
Attractionalism is bad. Attracting unbelievers is good.
Every church should want to attract unbelievers. In fact, 1 Corinthians 11?14 assumes their presence in our gatherings. Every time a church gathers, unbelievers should not only be welcomed but directly addressed; it should be a ?safe place? for them, where their lifestyles will be challenged, not disrespected, where they?ll face confrontation, not prejudice.
Every church should desire to be attractive to the unsaved. We seek to be attractive by planning our gatherings with a concern for clarity and intelligibility (1 Cor. 11?14). We seek to be attractive by preaching sermons that offer connections to their worldview (Acts 17). We seek to be attractive by being hospitable (Heb. 13:2) and meeting needs (Matt. 25:35). We seek to be attractive by being men of sincerity, commissioned by God to speak of Christ with confidence that the knowledge of him will be a fragrance of life to some, and death to others (2 Cor. 2:14?17).
But attractionalism takes these fairly obvious and benign desires and turns them into the raison d??tre of the local church. Attractionalism shrinks the commands of Scripture. Attractionalism inverts the Great Commission, turning it into a command to get people to come to us?and then lops off the parts that require patience and longsuffering. Attractionalism indulgently prioritizes one biblical command?evangelism?at the expense of others?meaningful church membership and discipline.
The point is that the philosophy produces the methods, and the further entrenched into pragmatism and "attractionalism" a church goes, the more likely the end result is a distancing from the core of the gospel(even when they use the same familiar sounding words, as the Mormons are often guilty of).