So, the posts in the OBC category about the issues at Open Door and that other church (Parkside) made me start thinking, and maybe it would be productive to ask the group:
1) Should the victim's family stay at the church where the problem happened? My opinion: so often, there is a cover-up mentality, and they are made to feel like they are trouble-makers, and responsible for what happened, so it would be really, really hard to stay.
2) How SHOULD the victim/victim's family be treated by other church members?
3) If the victim and/or victim's family begins visiting around, should they tell every church they visit what happened? Should they tell only the pastor? If they join another church, do the members need to know what they've gone through?
4) If you're on staff, and you happen to learn about the issues that the visitor had with a church in the area, should the family be treated any differently?
1) Should the victim's family stay at the church where the problem happened? My opinion: so often, there is a cover-up mentality, and they are made to feel like they are trouble-makers, and responsible for what happened, so it would be really, really hard to stay.
2) How SHOULD the victim/victim's family be treated by other church members?
3) If the victim and/or victim's family begins visiting around, should they tell every church they visit what happened? Should they tell only the pastor? If they join another church, do the members need to know what they've gone through?
4) If you're on staff, and you happen to learn about the issues that the visitor had with a church in the area, should the family be treated any differently?