Wives, Sisters, and Daughters, Please Speak

[Jo]

I started this thread as a continuation of a conversation from my thread entitled "Dave and Paula's Wedding."

It has bothered me for years when "good men do nothing." Especially regarding the victims of sexual abuse in the IFB world.

Over ten years ago, I sat across from a pastor and his wife whom I knew when I taught at a Christian school. The Jack Schaap scandal came out the year before, and I read enough to feel confident that it was true. The pastor in Indiana said to me, "IF it's true....."

I looked him in the eye and said, "Oh, it's true."

We were both quiet after that. I was not going to back down. I saw the polished shaft "sermon" on youtube, etc.

All of that to say, I think the women who are sisters, wives, ex-wives, daughters of predators in the IFB should speak out. Please share your truth.

David's ex-wife publicly shared what she knew. Linda shared what she knew. There are the victims who spoke in "Let Us Prey."

If you know something or saw something and want to share it, please do so....either here or share where it will be heard.

It's time for "good women" to talk.

I would love to hear what Brenda Stevens Hyles has to say.

 

[ALAYMAN]

I’m not trying to throw a cold rag on your efforts, merely to try to understand. Any person who has been traumatized and abused should have justice and healing.

What positive impact or outcome is accomplished in this call to speak out on a public forum? And how do you know that it isn’t something that is just made up when somebody speaks it?

 

[Plowman]

Years ago, a pastor near where I lived was convicted and sent to prison for molesting young boys in his church. I didn't know him, but my path had crossed his wife's because of her profession.
She swore that her husband had been framed and that he would never do anything like he'd been accused of doing.
Ironically, a few years after that, the woman who bought his old house hired me to make some repairs to it.
One day, as I was working, the new owner asked if she could talk with me about something she knew about the pastor. When I said yes, she opened a box of brown paper envelopes that she said had come to her house, addressed to the pastor, for several months after she had moved into their old house. She said she'd accidentally opened the first one she received without checking the mailing address and was horrified that the large manila envelope contained images of men and boys engaged in sex. She asked me what she should do, and I told her to burn them.
The thing that bothered me was that his wife swore to me that he had been framed and that he'd never do anything like that.
She had to know with mail coming to their house monthly. But she was in denial.

 

[ALAYMAN]

Years ago, a pastor near where I lived was convicted and sent to prison for molesting young boys in his church. I didn't know him, but my path had crossed his wife's because of her profession.
She swore that her husband had been framed and that he would never do anything like he'd been accused of doing.
Ironically, a few years after that, the woman who bought his old house hired me to make some repairs to it.
One day, as I was working, the new owner asked if she could talk with me about something she knew about the pastor. When I said yes, she opened a box of brown paper envelopes that she said had come to her house, addressed to the pastor, for several months after she had moved into their old house. She said she'd accidentally opened the first one she received without checking the mailing address and was horrified that the large manila envelope contained images of men and boys engaged in sex. She asked me what she should do, and I told her to burn them.
The thing that bothered me was that his wife swore to me that he had been framed and that he'd never do anything like that.
She had to know with mail coming to their house monthly. But she was in denial.

If they were child porography materials in postal materials addressed to the pastor I wouldn’t have advised her to burn them but to turn them over to the police.