Good morning all.
I started a thread last week about pastor splitting up marriages. It took a few turns I didn't anticipate, however, the posts were interesting and appreciated. Here's a new topic to consider---Pastors mistreating their staff.
Allow me to briefly explain---my son works on a church staff for a pastor who is a tyrant to his 10-person staff. I've heard many stories (some from my son, some from other staff members) of the humiliating dressing-down of staff members in meetings, the snide, belittling remarks to congregants about his staff, and his absolute disregard for his staff's family life. Its gotten so bad that a male staff member was humiliated in front of his fellow staff members by the pastor for not having children. Truth be told, it was discovered by testing that the man is infertile, but the very fact that the pastor humiliated him in front of others over an extremely personal matter, is (to me) way over the line. This is a private matter between a husband and wife.
There are a lot of other examples, but those few are my most vivid memories. I suspect some will suggest the staff should just quit if they can't buck-up to this dictator. I certainly have suggested this to my son. The truth is--some have applied at other churches for ministry postions, but when the hiring church contacted the tyrant pastor as a reference, he sabotaged the application. And he was even brazen to tell the staff member he put the "kabosh" on their job prospect.
So wadda do? Any takers?
I started a thread last week about pastor splitting up marriages. It took a few turns I didn't anticipate, however, the posts were interesting and appreciated. Here's a new topic to consider---Pastors mistreating their staff.
Allow me to briefly explain---my son works on a church staff for a pastor who is a tyrant to his 10-person staff. I've heard many stories (some from my son, some from other staff members) of the humiliating dressing-down of staff members in meetings, the snide, belittling remarks to congregants about his staff, and his absolute disregard for his staff's family life. Its gotten so bad that a male staff member was humiliated in front of his fellow staff members by the pastor for not having children. Truth be told, it was discovered by testing that the man is infertile, but the very fact that the pastor humiliated him in front of others over an extremely personal matter, is (to me) way over the line. This is a private matter between a husband and wife.
There are a lot of other examples, but those few are my most vivid memories. I suspect some will suggest the staff should just quit if they can't buck-up to this dictator. I certainly have suggested this to my son. The truth is--some have applied at other churches for ministry postions, but when the hiring church contacted the tyrant pastor as a reference, he sabotaged the application. And he was even brazen to tell the staff member he put the "kabosh" on their job prospect.
So wadda do? Any takers?
