Pastors Mistreating Staff

[subllibrm]

I don't want to downplay the concern of the OP but it should be noted that this same type of mistreatment goes on in workplaces all over the place. Now it should never happen in a ministry setting but we are kidding ourselves if we think the position will somehow remove megalomania from a man. In fact if he is all ready prone to such, the title pastor can quite often make it worse.

In my experience this type of leadership comes from a place of personal doubting. When the underling seems to be more productive, better liked or whatever, it grinds on the insecurities of the one above. The mention of Saul and David earlier hits this pretty well on the head of the nail. The people sang praise to David and that drove Saul into fits of anger.

FWIW my brother worked with a wise old black fellow (played in the Negro leagues with Satchel Paige). One lunch break my brother was griping about something job related. Mr. Bennett asks him to tell him what his (my brother) job is. Well I do this and that and then if there is time I help with ...  No son, that is your work. What you have missed is knowing what your job is. In whatever you do in life, to succeed and get ahead you must always remember that your job is to make your boss look good. I am not sure that enduring abuse fits in there but as Christians we should all strive to help our boss succeed in his role. That will in the long run make you a valuable part of the team.

 

[IFB X-Files]

you must always remember that your job is to make your boss look good.

So true.  I was asked at a job I had what my purpose was.  My answer was "To make the boss rich".

 

[prophet]

I don't want to downplay the concern of the OP but it should be noted that this same type of mistreatment goes on in workplaces all over the place. Now it should never happen in a ministry setting but we are kidding ourselves if we think the position will somehow remove megalomania from a man. In fact if he is all ready prone to such, the title pastor can quite often make it worse.

In my experience this type of leadership comes from a place of personal doubting. When the underling seems to be more productive, better liked or whatever, it grinds on the insecurities of the one above. The mention of Saul and David earlier hits this pretty well on the head of the nail. The people sang praise to David and that drove Saul into fits of anger.

FWIW my brother worked with a wise old black fellow (played in the Negro leagues with Satchel Paige). One lunch break my brother was griping about something job related. Mr. Bennett asks him to tell him what his (my brother) job is. Well I do this and that and then if there is time I help with ...  No son, that is your work. What you have missed is knowing what your job is. In whatever you do in life, to succeed and get ahead you must always remember that your job is to make your boss look good. I am not sure that enduring abuse fits in there but as Christians we should all strive to help our boss succeed in his role. That will in the long run make you a valuable part of the team.

One of the grave dangers of the church-king heresy, is the idea that a man should be "the boss", and that the staff are "his".
Be careful, God is jealous.

Haklo

 

[subllibrm]

I don't want to downplay the concern of the OP but it should be noted that this same type of mistreatment goes on in workplaces all over the place. Now it should never happen in a ministry setting but we are kidding ourselves if we think the position will somehow remove megalomania from a man. In fact if he is all ready prone to such, the title pastor can quite often make it worse.

In my experience this type of leadership comes from a place of personal doubting. When the underling seems to be more productive, better liked or whatever, it grinds on the insecurities of the one above. The mention of Saul and David earlier hits this pretty well on the head of the nail. The people sang praise to David and that drove Saul into fits of anger.

FWIW my brother worked with a wise old black fellow (played in the Negro leagues with Satchel Paige). One lunch break my brother was griping about something job related. Mr. Bennett asks him to tell him what his (my brother) job is. Well I do this and that and then if there is time I help with ...  No son, that is your work. What you have missed is knowing what your job is. In whatever you do in life, to succeed and get ahead you must always remember that your job is to make your boss look good. I am not sure that enduring abuse fits in there but as Christians we should all strive to help our boss succeed in his role. That will in the long run make you a valuable part of the team.

One of the grave dangers of the church-king heresy, is the idea that a man should be "the boss", and that the staff are "his".
Be careful, God is jealous.

Haklo

Which I thought I had covered.