if you took time to read the forum and learn about people before opening your mouth you might not make such a fool of yourself....... you know nothing about me.... .but just to "enlighten" you some.... my "mommy" as you called her is in hell..... along with some of the pedophiles she started giving me to for money when i was 5 years old... her idea of "care" was something i could have done without.. .my testimony along with medical evidence put her in prison.... .and you couldn;t be like me if you wanted to unless you had an emergency hysterectomy at age 9.... then saw your natural sister murdered in front of you at age 11.... ..was diagnosed with schizophrenia at age 12 but knew something was wrong long before that.... then attempted suicide at age 13 after a misguided school counsellor giving a speech in an assembly told the class that if certain things happened to them as teenagers their lives would not be worth living.....
and all those things you say you did to help your wife recover from abuse are things my adopted dad and new family did for me.... spending thousands of hours and a ton of money from their own pocket to do it..... i would be dead if not for them.... many times over......he was a firefighter paramedic for 35 years and while you might have built earth moving machines he has saved lives.. thousands of them.... most of our family is in the military or medical field... and i guess you can ask them about the quality of my life skills coz they are the ones who have taught me against all odds how to survive as nearly normal as possible - considering all that has happened.... .and yeah - i still live with them.... always will ...could not make it on my own in the outside world and i know it..... . so there is one more thing you can add to your put down and slam list when you decide to open your mouth again and continue with braying and jaw flapping on what a loser i am and the "bright sides" you think i should look at.....
but regardless of all that i still would not trade one minute of the life i have now to be anything like you..... .i am very happy where i am and knowing it is right where God put me..... so sell your grandiose stories of over acheivment to somebody else.... i am not impressed....
I'm not here to impress anyone.
When I left NY 25 years ago to go to work for Caterpillar in Illinois I thought I was starting a new job.
Adonai had other plans I was actually going to Illinois to meet my future wife starting a new job was a by product. Adonai knew I would be the only person that could help and meet her needs. When I met my wife she was taking her meals through a straw. Her abusive mother jammed a broom handle way up her rectum and put her cigarettes out on her legs and arms. Her father did the unthinkable to her with other men. I'm not using this as a comparison to what happened to you. Adonai used me as a tool to put her back together physically, emotionally and spiritually. My wife has had numerous surgeries. She hasn't eaten a steak since she was a girl until I took her to St Vincent hospital in Indianapolis for a difficult abdominal surgery. She can now eat regular food. She takes stool softeners for the rest of her life because of her rectal abuse damage.
She has had 2 rotator cuff surgeries,
One upper and one lower back surgeries to replace degenerated discs. She has fibromayalgia. She recently had a procedure for Afib. She has had a hysterectomy.
She also has wet macular degeneration where she gets eye injections every 4 weeks in both eyes for the rest of her life. Those injections are $3,000 per injection. Both of her parents are dead and in hell where they belong.
My wife is financially secure for the rest of her life on this planet. I am her legal advocate and her physical advocate. She told me she would have been dead if I had not come into her life when I did. My wife loves cats. I bought her a Maine coon kitten last summer from a breeder.
I would literally move heaven and hell for her. There is a special bond between two people that has suffered abuse from another person.
Her girlfriend who was also abused passed away about 5 years ago. They had a special bond. They did about everything together. You would think someone that has suffered severe abuse would be angry at the world and other people. My wife is the opposite. She has a real sweet spirit and demeanor about her. She is a gracious person that always makes people feel welcome and appreciated. She doesn't have a victim mentality. I retired from Caterpillar to be a full time caregiver for her.
I really don't care what people think about me. The only opinion that counts is Yeshua's
I'm not perfect. Now that I have all the facts. I do owe you my sincere and heartfelt apology for the things I said about you.
Whether or not you forgive me that will be up to you. If you chose not to forgive me I will understand, but I always will treat you with courtesy and respect from now on. You will be in my morning prayers tomorrow.
Y'varechecha Adonai v'yishmerecha
May God Bless you and keep you.
Shalom
