TruthBearer said:Walt said:In my opinion, the tone of the messages is flirtatious on his part.
I get the idea that she was a bit uncomfortable, but didn't know how to handle such texts from her supposed MOG.
I don't know if I would stay there, but if this is a sample of what was happening, I don't think it warrants as a pastor-disqualifying action.
So how far would a Pastor have to go with a secret relationship with another woman before you would consider it a pastor disqualifying action?
Clearly, being unfaithful to his wife would be disqualifying. Do we know that this was a secret relationship? If his wife didn't know that he was acting like this toward the young lady, that's a black mark for sure.
In my opinion anyone in a leadership role should be held to a higher standard of conduct or they would not be able to counsel someone heading down a wrong path that could lead to a disqualifying action.
As I previously stated, I think the tone is a bit flirtatious -- it COULD just be friendly. I think it is unwise for an older man to text a teen in this manner.
The Scripture gives qualifications for pastors, and "never making an unwise decision" is not one of them.
If one chooses to put a dark outlook, this series of messages is probably exactly how Jack Schaap started out...
Of all the people I text, my wife gets 98% of all text messages and call time. It's a red flag that he is texting her so much.